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NEIGHBORS Tuesday, October 27, 2009 www.TheNews-Messenger.com Discuss problems before marriage DEAR ABBY We have known each other two years, so we have had plenty of time to get acquainted. How do I tell him his eating behavior gets under my skin? I don't in telling your fiance how his eating habits affect you. If you can't discuss something as basic as this, how are you going to discuss the challenging problems that will inevitably arise after the two of you are married? You said yourself that Jeff knows better. He eats this way in front of you because he thinks you don't mind. So please level with him now before the wedding.

It won't hurt his feelings; it will set him straight. DEAR ABBY: I am 13, 5 feet 3, and weigh 90 pounds. I just started high school. My parents think I'm starving myself. They call me "disgusting," "horrifying," and my personal favorite "ugly." My brother calls me "Skinny Bones Jones." I do not starve myself, nor am I anorexic or bu pay attention.

One sentence in your letter tells me that you may have an eating disorder it's your comment about needing to exercise after eating because you feel bloated. You should be evaluated by a nurse at school, if there is one, or by a physician to be sure you're getting enough nutrients to remain healthy, that you're not overdoing the exercise, and if there could be a physical problem causing the feeling you're interpreting as "bloat." Please share what I have said with your parents because it's important. Name-calling and ridicule are not the answer to a problem like the one you may have. Write Dear Abby at www.Dear Abby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA.

90069. DEAR ABBY: I'm engaged to the man of my dreams. Our wedding is two months away, and I couldn't be more excited about starting my life with "Jeff." Only one thing bothers me. When the two of us eat alone together, Jeff throws his manners out the window. He kind of eats like a pig.

He opens his mouth as wide as it will go and takes as big a bite as he can. Then, as he's chewing (even with his mouth closed) he makes noises. I can't get past the noises! I know Jeff knows better because he doesn't eat like this when we're out with his parents or having dinner with friends. The first time he did it I thought he was joking. The second time, I thought he was just really hungry.

Now I realize this is the way he eats. limic. I just happen to get full from small portions rather quickly or I may not be hungry at the moment. At night I do some quick exercises and yoga positions so I won't feel bloated from meals. Some of my friends have said they think I have become anorexic.

Because of all this my self-esteem is at an all-time low. I used to weigh more than 100 pounds, but recently I got the stomach flu, which explains my sudden weight loss and fullness. Am I wrong in thinking I'm healthy? Are my family and friends right that I'm anorexic? Please help. 90-POUND GIRL IN FULLERTON, CALIF. DEAR 90-POUND GIRL: When "everyone" starts telling us something we don't want to hear, it may be time to JEANNE PHILLIPS Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.

want any children we have to learn these habits. Jeff has a tender heart, and I don't want to hurt his feelings. LOOKING ASKANCE IN TEXAS DEAR LOOKING: You are about two years late HEARD ON THE STREET 3 Browse-n-Buy 3 X1 at Memorial CLUB NEWS HAPPY HOMESTEADERS The Happy Homesteaders met in September at Creek Bend Farm on Ohio 590, Lindsey. Deb Haubert gave a tour of the barn and the house. She explained how the Parks District was able to purchase the property in 2002 by a generous donation from the Robert and Frances Roush Family and a grant from the Ohio Public Works Commission's Clean Ohio Conservation Fund.

The property, listed on the National Register of Historic Places, was the home of Bob and Fran Roush. The Park District is developing the properly as a 1930-1950 era farm park. After the tour, the meeting was continued at Frisch's Big Boy. Roll call was answered with a favorite trip or park of the member. Programs were given out by Carolyn Smal-lets, vice president.

Many interesting meetings are planned. OLD FORT FLAMES The Old Fort Flames met at the firehouse for its October Meeting. Paula Hunker and Ken Curns spoke about the Old Fort Local School District Bond Issue. They explained the importance of levy at his time. Plans for the Halloween parade were finalized.

Grand marshals are Ralph Gillmor and Art Jibilian, Election Day lunch will be served at the firehouse. The Flames will also serve The Old Fort Lions Club evening at the firehouse. Lunch was served by Norma Stiger and Verna Mae Huber. BIDE A WEE FARM CLUB The Bide A Wee Farm Club Women met in October for brunch and a craft day at the home of Kathy Otermat in Marblehead. The ladies spent the morning making pumpkins from material for table decorations.

Kathy Otermat, vice president, presided over the meeting in the absence of President Connie. She gave the thought for the day; "You can't control everything, so don't try." Roll call was answered by the seven ladies in attendance to how did you observe Halloween as a child? In legislative news, Eleanor Berlekamp brought up the pros and cons of energy smart light bulbs. It was noted that Carol Polter was the winner of the Bob Evan's Contest with her German hobo feast dinner. After the meeting, the ladies enjoyed a brunch prepared by each lady bringing a covered dish to share. The meal was topped off by Eleanor reading Leaves.

The next meeting is Nov. 1 1 at the home of Phyllis Kerns. Hospital j) TRICK OR TREAT SET FOR SATURDAY Fremont's trick or treat will be from 5:30 to 7 p.m. Saturday. Residents should turn on their porch lights if they want to participate.

LIBRARY COMMITTEE TO MEET TODAY The Personnel Committee of the Board of Trustees of Birchard Public Library will meet at 4 p.m. today in the conference room at Birchard Public Library, Fremont. LIBRARY TO HAVE SPOOKY STORIES Kids in Kindergarten through fourth grade are invited to the Woodville Library at 7 p.m. Wednesday for some "Spooktacular Stories" just right for the season. For information, call 419-849-2744 or visit www.birchard.lib.oh.us.

LIBRARY TO SPIN SPINE CHILLERS Birchard Public Library's own Judy Donnan will spin a web of scary spine-chillers at 7 p.m. Thursday for kids ages 7 and older. For information, call 419-334-7101 or visit www.bir-chard.lib. oh.us. CENTER TO HAVE TRICK OR TREAT Bethesda Care Center, 600 N.

Brush is having trick or treat at 6 p.m. Wednesday. Children are encouraged to come in costume with a bag to fill with the candy that each resident will be handing out. If you have questions, call 419-334-9521 and ask for Janelle or Fran. Holiday Open Housel rn Oct.

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Photo tributes will be published on Wednesday, November 11th in The News-Messenger. Give thanks today and every day for all our veterans We are eternally grateful for their dedication and service. Sin oky on lama en essee Waler Front Mountain Visla Views 25 I 3 Humif Boat Slips Waking Trails Atmrtfable Slsrt.ng Karnes THANK YOU The Liberty Center of Sandusky County Emergency Homeless Shelter would like to thank those who donated to the Liberty Center Auction Oct. 20 at Crystal Arbors. We appreciate all of our donors and all those who attended or assisted in planning and working at the auction.

A thank you goes to event sponsor Walmart of Fremont, Crystal Arbors for the Hall, and Fred Wolff and Bill Baker, auctioneers. This was a very successful year and the funds raised will be used to assist homeless families and individuals with safe shelter, meals, case management and referrals empowering them to become self-sufficient. Barb Everhart Tiffin Only $15.00 each kMJ I I- kVM H'i'mMi rHtTreWTTT OPEN HOUSE Sunday, Nov. 1 1-4 p.m. All submissions must be received by noon Wednesday, November 4th.

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